Valentine’s Day is fast approaching. The season of love, chocolate, flowers and other general fluff. It also that time of year for valentine-less humans such as myself to sob.
A few of my friends have elaborate, drawn out plans for the day (which I’m totally not jealous of :P), but they’re all completely mundane things! Nothing over the top like in all the Young Adult books, which made me realise exactly how very unrealistically romance is portrayed in young adult books. Sure, romance forms a major part of growing up, but it doesn’t consume an individual (or at least it shouldn’t!!) completely and isolate them from every part of their life pre-relationship, as is incorrectly portrayed in basically every YA romance ever.
Here is my list of the pros and cons of romance in YA:
- Romance books are full of cutesy dialogue and romantic gestures which make my heart dissolve to mush because some of the things they say are just SO CUTE. YAY FOR CUTENESS!
- YA romances are usually quick, short reads which are great for reading slumps!
- They’re full of great, witty banter, which are always fun to read. Exhibit A: Etiénne St Clair.
- They emphasize the ups and downs of relationships, and how to deal with them for maximum love points.
- Most of the male love interests in these books are attractive, nice people who restore my faith in humanity. Not all boys are total jerks! Only most of them are! xD
- They’re unrealistic, giving young girls and boys expectations which are incredibly hard to meet.
- Most YA romances fail to show the awkward side of relationships. If you spend most of your time with a certain person, there are bound to be plenty of awkward moments right? But I haven’t read much of them in books.
- This one is more for myself, having never been in a relationship (I’m going to die alone lol) – they are not relatable at all. They’re fun to read and all, but I really cannot picture 90% of the scenarios happening in real life. Life isn’t like Hairspray with Zac Efron being an absolute sweetheart. Though that would be the best.
Imagine Zac Efron pining after you… OKAY I’M GOING OFF TOPIC, moving on!
- After a certain point, all of the stories seem to be the exact same thing. I have nothing against clichés, but the fact that I’ve read multiple books with very similar plots and characters, bothers me a little bit. There are plenty of extremely original stories (in fact, I may just write about some sometime!) But a majority of the stories are very similar and I tend to mix them up with others in my head.
- Everything is so over the top. I’m all for grand romantic gestures, they are the cutest things, but some stories take it wayyy too far and, I know I sound repetitive, but that doesn’t happen in real life! The things they say, the way they act – sometimes it’s a bit much.
- Romantically linked characters are soo dependant on each other in YA, it’s ridiculous. Being in love doesn’t mean needing someone to complete you, it’s about knowing that someone completes you, right? (What am I even saying, I’m just a deluded teenage girl haha xD)
All that said, I still love reading YA romance, it’s fun and cheesy, but it makes me feel really happy. What are your opinions? Do you like YA romance? Do you dislike it? Do you agree with anything I said? Do you want to stab me with a pitchfork because I was so wrong? Tell me in the comments!